Sunday, June 30, 2013

A thought on Cross Dressing

While "surfing the web" I stumbled upon an article about cross dressers by Ellen Sherman and wanted to re-tell it.  It's really long so I didn't.  You can Google it.  It's about the 11 Misconceptions of Cross Dressers.

Ellen opens by saying every Fall, several hundred traditional husbands, fathers and businessmen come together in Provincetown for Fantasia Fair with parties, seminars and workshops exploring the thorny issue of how to buy the right wig and hide a 5 o'clock shadow with the foundation and blush-on.  Heterosexual married men from suburbia with families are among those who cross-dress.  What's going on?  Apparently cross dressing is a much more common practice than most people would imagine.

I thought it complimented the blog "Femulate" by Stana, Stana.  The bottom-line, speaking for myself, is you can't change a cross dresser's mind, they are the way they are, period!  Some know themselves to be honest to goodness women.  I know I do!

This information was originally published on 5/28/98, and can be viewed at;

It's lots of stuff you may already know and has many giant mental minds in it but despite that and its publication date, it hasn't changed anything in this civil and polite society for us.  We're still seen as lowly trannies for the most part.  Maybe that change will come soon, when 'soon' will be is any one's guess.

Just sayin'

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Wearing a corset 24/7

I just read an article about a woman, an honest to goodness GG woman, who is 24 years old and has been wearing a corset for three years.  She says her goal is to obtain the world's smallest waist.  She has spent the last three years eating, sleeping and living in a corset, and her waist is a mere three inches smaller than when she started.  Sad!

It's a foolish thing to do when coupled with the cited potential medical problems, and there are plenty.  However, I see no reason to stop sleeping in my Squeem!  It's a perplexing psychological phenomena, people who are so entrenched in their own self-perception, like I am in my desire to be a woman, I'm just a man who merely chooses to present as a woman and all that entails.

I'm not much different from the majority of men who wear a dress and makeup for other men and I do that in order to get fucked.  So, does that make me gay?  I think not but I may be wrong!

I do feel my movements and actions are more feminine when I wear a heavily boned cloth corset, not to mention the short skirts and high heels!  And, when I check my reflection in my hall mirror every morning, I believe I also look just a bit sexy!  All the male admirers I "date" would have me be naughty for them anyway and since that's what I see as my major female goal in my trans-life, it's a no-brainer!

I know my oral desire can easily be turned into a simple fixation but I don't have a pussy and it just happens to be my preference!  I enjoy my sexual interactions with men and I like the taste of their semen.  I simply love making love to a man including being fucked by him!  I feel we should leave well enough alone.

Se la vie!

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

The Quick Reference to the Diagnostic Criteria From the DSM-4-TR

From one poster on Amazon:  Finally, someone recognizes that there are non-professionals who need to use the DSM IV-TR.  I am a family law attorney and have to deal with forensic psychological evaluations or psychological issues in my divorce cases, but I have no mental health training.

Honest and interesting.

From another:  My father was a psychologist.  Amateur diagnoses were the bane of his existence and professional misdiagnoses are just as dangerous.  I can see why.  I have been unable to recognize people I know from the vague descriptions in the literature.  It's totally irresponsible to lead people to believe that any layman can simply pick up the DSM and make diagnoses and recommend a course of therapy!

Insane, yet it happens!

Yet another comment about this book was, In the meantime, making diagnoses from the DSM is not only a physician's role it's his right!"

This comment causes me to offer, with no offense intended, apparently not that much is known about American mental health.  Again, no offense is intended, but clinicians who are not doctors but still learning students in colleges (lay-persons) are future psychologists, future social workers, future psychiatric nurse practitioners, etc., and all are taught to use the DSM for making diagnoses.  They are taught they have a responsibility to do so, which they do, then take that teaching as a "legal" right to recommend therapies!  This says a lot for inexperience and students of academia.

According to the ethics of the field, and in concert with my own opinions, to make mental health diagnoses, let alone prescribe or recommend therapies, according to the DSM and criteria contained within it, is a joke.  IMO, no one should use it because its methods are not "written in stone" and, in my further opinion, this book can be quite harmful!

Point in case, I've been asked hundreds of times by men who are married to give them  meaningless, albeit quickie, blow jobs while their wives are away, AND we should not talk about it, ever!  So, does that mean I have a mental illness and they're merely taking advantage of it?  Who is right and who is wrong?

I see myself as a person who loves to dress like a female, wear makeup, and love men in the one way I know best how!  But because I'm a known femme and oftentimes comply with requests, I have to ask myself, should I continue?  It's well known I'm a male to female transvestite and I thoroughly enjoy sucking men's cocks to climax, I also happen to be thought of as a sex-starved horny bitch by both these same men and their women!  Bottom line, I don't think I'm behaving badly as a woman and neither do my admirers!

Without question YOU should be allowed to be the kind of woman YOU want to be!