Saturday, March 24, 2012

We just like how it looks on us!

Never mind the Paris Hiltons, Kim Kardasians, or the other myriad of sexy women around, I ask, why do I enjoy dressing the same way they do?  Sometimes it boils down to, "We just like how it looks on us!"

Take a moment and look at how many real women who are old enough to know better but who still follow the "trends" and try to dress as if they're still their daughter's age.  There's even a word to describe them, Cougars.  It's not just my opinion that these "cougars" are simply looking for Mr Right-now and are not at all interested in finding Mr Right, it's the attitude of most men and women of society and it's very acceptable.

Agree or don't, these cougars also send the message to their teenage girls that they have to be "hot" in order to be accepted.  As a male to female transvestite I also have an affinity for men, ergo, I firmly don't believe I'm so different from those teenage girls, but because of my biological sex I do fit in a whole other category.

In reality, teen girls aren't so much the problem as the 40 and 50-somethings out there.  These cougars cut just as deeply as anyone, maybe even deeper!  While it's my opinion the cougars simply refuse to act their age, asking the question "why" begets a much larger more comprehensive issue, and it's much the same as mine.

It is a little accepted fact that teenage girls don't frequent the same clubs or bars that I do which leaves cougars, as well as other T-girls, in direct competition for cock with me!  Some of these older women are so desperately hoping for sex with a guy they dress and act in ways that make them look inappropriate (cheap) and behave foolishly (again cheap!)  I may come across as condescending but I take many of my cues directly from them!  Cougars are my best teachers.

No one is suggesting Cougars simply accept the fact most guys are not interested in them in any way other than as an NSA sex partner, I know I'm certainly hoping that's the case with regard to myself!

As for not being able to find "sexy" clothing in the regular stores which are age appropriate, may I suggest the thrift shops?  I use thrift shops and I sew.  There are many ways to be fashionable and still remain modest ... if modest is how you wish to be seen!  When I go out "hunting" for man-sex, modesty is the farthest thing from my mind!

Do some women flaunt their sex?  Are you blind?  Allow me to share.

When we were kids (back in 1960) we might leave the house looking one particular way and then change into something more "edgy" long before the school bus arrived.  I was very impressed by the girls because they left home with a fresh clean face and the usual long skirt.  Then they added the makeup, maybe added some toilet tissue to their bras and unbuttoned their blouses down to here, they also rolled up their skirts!  Ms. Hottie emerged!  It was a slut look that both the girls and the boys liked very much.  It was no wonder the girls became very popular with the boys! 

As a gay boy, I quickly learned that what you did was not nearly as important as image.  Image was everything!  In fact, it was my image which saved me a lot of ass kicking!

With Madison Avenue out and about women are simply pretty, crafty, and feel they absolutely MUST keep up with their peers.  It is argued that I chose my sex identification but I think I merely grew up like a sponge.  I simply didn't take long to learn.

In my humble opinion society is the one confused.

Thursday, March 22, 2012


This topic was recently brought up during my good friend's English class.

It would seem that teaching students to emulate highly forward thinking people would be a good thing.  The fact these forward thinking people are inclusive and obviously popular would be a huge plus.  Advocacy, as a general subject, would be well served, teaching it would be wholesome, it would of course be the right-est thing to do. 

However, doing so as a formal teacher one could easily become a victim of the scholastic system.  Political Correctness knows no bounds and WHAT you advocate is just as important as WHY.
An example is that society, as is generally viewed, does not think favorably of queers or Cross Dressers regardless if they're male or female.  Ru Paul is excepted and the topic for another subject.

Dallas Denny wrote back in 1999, that we DO eat our leaders, one only need look to Wiki-leaks and the Occupy factions to see if this is a true statement or not.  Even the President of the United States gets blamed for everything from Katrina to Health Insurance, from unemployment to gas prices, regardless of party affiliation and regardless of actual control.

In the final analysts real and honest advocacy is not that much different from war, both have causes and motivations, both have outcomes, and both are quite violent.  Not everyone is equipped to be an advocate just like everyone can not be a soldier.

I, for one, hope to have Cross Dressing advocacy around for some time, for it is nice to have people provide an anchor for us.  Unfortunately, society may never change.

Sunday, March 4, 2012

A very TOPICAL topic!

Somewhat in vouge, too!

I recently read someplace a post which made me think about conversations I had with GG's which included fellatio and anal sex.  When I think back on those conversations they were fraught with conflict and almost bordered on hostility.

One particular woman (she was from Canada, a painter artist type, and lived on a sailboat) who I felt I could confess to said, maybe I was enjoying being a woman too much!  She told me to be careful.  Then in a very graphic manner admonished me NOT to tell her husband!  Could it be that women didn’t really accept me, but paid lip-service to my situation, simply because I was neither a real woman or a real man?

Wow!  Another question to ponder!

Many conversations took place but I’ve never understood how almost all GG’s say it's OK for a man to be gay, yet, they resist their own man when he wants a little quick oral or some meaningless anal sex.  Allowing him to cross dress and act out as a homosexual is absolutely forbidden.

I did not ask them, what their preference was!

Almost to a woman they told me they only did it because he wanted it.  They said they only saw oral and anal sex as a means to get something really nice from him later in exchange, one woman mentioned a diamond necklace!  They all made it a very strong point to remind me they were real women and didn’t do that just for kicks!  A few even said it was kind of ghetto and a bit disgusting.

It must have been him that wanted anal and oral sex as part of their bedroom routine.  Which is to say, he did, but she didn’t!  That difference could lead to conflict and divorce.  It certainly explained to me why I, as a T-girl, met so many married men.  They apparently enjoyed anal and oral sex but they didn’t get it at home!

I was not so surprised to learn most women do it as an obligation only.  Many GG's do as their man tells them, but don't we all?  GG's have told me they view anal and oral sex as merely another form of birth control.  While they admit to using their mouths, which some have claimed is done as much as three times per day, most say they don't like giving head as a substitute for regular sex.

Speaking for myself, giving my LTR guy a blow job three times a day was great!  Giving three different STD free guys blow jobs in the course of a single day was my idea of heaven!

GG’s also related to me that gay females can simply use a dildo to sexually satisfy their partner using her vagina.  Some have also told me, laughingly, that 'if' they were gay, they’d use the double ended dildos!  I guess GG’s are not so different from the rest of us humans!

During these conversations, they've also told me they feel sorry for a gay man like me because we’re severely limited.  We male gays are relegated and must use only what we have depending what the guy is into.  Although I'd never say it, personally, I see him as just being into me for the moment!  lol!

I think doing what the guy wants is a normal part of being a femme.  As a T-girl, I think of oral or anal sex as anything but humiliating.  During my life I’ve given head and took it up my back-side a few times while in front of large, bare, apartment windows, knowing we were being watched via telescopes, simply because he said he wanted me that way. 

Many trysts were performed in full view of the neighbors and they rarely said anything to either of us but they always watched!  Yes, as I left the place I often got more than a few looks.  That didn’t matter to me because I was secure in knowing I also got the customary semen, which I see as another kind of satisfaction, and nothing threatening ever happened to me! 
If oral and anal sex is a humiliating sex act, then I've willingly accepted being humiliated by lots of men!  But I also wear a dress and have low morals, so, maybe I'm just really confused.

Actually, I don’t think I’m confused at all!