The biggest advantage for group membership is community. I'm a gay man, married with children and I like to dress like a woman, including the make up and jewelry. I also thoroughly enjoy behaving badly with men. So, to be fair to me, I need my own place!
Before becoming another closet queer, I decided I would not be a participant of any group and that had the uncanny ability for bringing lots of privacy to my particular situation. I see no advantage in joining most groups and, in fact, I think in most cases it's absolutely wasteful unless you seek advocacy, approval, blessing, or some other support for your self. If you just seek company, well I'm told misery loves company, but in all seriousness . . . .
As a "sister" I know my experience has always been about the sex only and I think it's only fair that most men I meet are cautious, especially about meeting a "tranny" for the first time sight unseen! I like to think of them as simply being nervous because I'm also nervous about meeting them! I’d point them to my web-page but, unfortunately, not everyone has a computer! In most cases I think it’s safe to say he does not wish to get caught with me and he probably doesn’t want to be seen with me in public places where he’s well known either!
While there are men enough who admire us effeminate and accommodating man-tramps they usually don't want to be seen with one because they have a wife, children, a career or all of the above. That being the case I try to make it easy for them by going for uncrowded neutral places or empty bars and, because it’s the first time we’re meeting, I let them know I’m not dressing like a whore! If they’re nice to me I give them a pretty calling card with my name and number on the front and my mini-skirt picture on the back. If they want a repeat, they can just call me, they can make an appointment, a kind of date with me. These guys may be slow to respond to my emails and they may be nothing more than thrill seekers, but I'll take them in secret moments of lust any time!
I've met very good, and nice, men knowing they knew full well about me beforehand and only wanted me for a few moments of NSA sex. I admit I sleep very well! I've been both flattered and flabbergasted at some of the things they say to me, the demands they make on me, and the tips they give me! Oh yes, they do tip! That comes from people who care and understand that other people (even men who wear dresses and behave like naughty little girls!) actually work in the real world and have regular and usual expenses. Yes, it’s true, we Transvestites also have other responsibilities.
So, as you can read, I’m not too thrilled about meeting with large numbers of people who don’t know me because that usually leads to rude and inconsiderate people saying all manner of things. I’d simply rather avoid that scene.
The men I don’t care for are the never ending stream of “admirers” who are the ones who advertise in the "for free" papers and have on-line posts with unachievably high expectations. They actually make me laugh despite the depth of their sadness. They must think every T-girl is just sitting around their comfy apartment, dolled up looking like a professional (Ru Paul Drag Queen or a street walking whore!) just scanning the ads desperately seeking an opportunity to worship some guys manly parts. NOT!
They almost all say they prefer that the T-girl host the affair and this will be seen as mutual respect or discretion by them. Please don't make me laugh so hard! Those types of guys will NEVER get as much as the correct time of day from a “tranny” like me! I simply see their ads as a complete waste of my talent and my effort, but if that's what they want, that's what they’ll get!
Happy April Fools Day!!