I wish to say that I'm saddened Mike Wallace has passed and I truly hope he's in a better place.
I found it interesting that "The Homosexuals" was Mike Wallace's controversial 1967 report that aired on CBS. Wow, 1967, that was a long time ago!
The hour-long program, which predated "60 Minutes" and was anchored by Wallace on "CBS Reports", took on the then taboo topic of homosexuality in America. Homosexuality is still not accepted by this society today, but it's not so much a taboo topic either!
Wallace said in the piece, "The average homosexual, if there be such an average, is promiscuous. He is not interested in, or capable of, a lasting relationship like that of a heterosexual marriage. His sex life, his love life, consists of a series of one-chance encounters at the clubs and bars he inhabits. And even on the streets of the city, the pick-ups, the one night stands, these are the real characteristics of the homosexual relationship."
No wonder being viewed as a homosexual was so depraved. It was being told that it was both wrong and dirty! Perhaps that's why so many of us became Trans! No, I actually don't think so.
Wearing a dress was NOT the result of being brainwashed by our own televisions! We felt it. I wore dresses as a simple way of justifying my personal homosexual feelings and I saw wearing a dress as a way of adding value to my self. I was still going to do what I wanted.
The Atlantic's Conor Friedersdorf wrote, the report is "impossible to watch without cringing." IMO, change has always been around but acceptance of that change has not!
Wikipedia has a pretty good back story on the episode, which Wallace later regretted doing, "I should have known better," he said in 1992. Two decades ago! That's almost as long as most trans-persons have been breathing.
Wallace also lamented that the report relied, in part, on Charles Socarides, a psychiatrist who felt homosexuality was a mental illness. Wallace said in a 1996 interview, "That is, God help us, what our understanding was of the homosexual lifestyle a mere 25 years ago, nobody was out of the closet and because that's what we heard from doctors, that's what Socarides told us, homosexuality was a matter of shame."
A mere 25 years before! Says a lot about this "open" and civil society.
It is said that being gay is OK, but dressing like a common female is not. No one questions what you do as a gay person and everyone questions what you do as male to female. After all these years not much acceptance or understanding has reached the multitudes of humanity.
God bless you, Mike.
Thursday, April 12, 2012
Sunday, April 8, 2012
Another look at my life
I'm very happy for boys and girls who are cross-sexed, but knowing society as I do, I'm also a bit afraid for them, too! I read many blogs that talk about being cross-sexed and the terms used are so complicated. I guess I was too at the ripe old age of 4 or 6, however, lmao!
Apparently, we cross-sexed people seem to know at a very early age exactly what our feelings are telling us. It's mostly people around us who are confused. I was a bit more lucky than most because I grew up in the San Francisco bay area where I was simply seen as just another queer who happened to like wearing female clothing. No one understood cross sexed persons back then.
I've not been accepted by the people I care about to include my biological family and siblings. Oddly enough, my happiest memories have been the stolen moments I spent with admiring boys. God, what risks I used to take for them!
Let me re-tell a story about one incident regarding my cross dressing in public.
I was in my late teen years and already fairly experienced with men, I thoroughly loved the excitement of having wanton oral sex with a man. I was riding in a jitney bus alone going up Mission street and the seat I was in faced riders on the opposite side. A man occupied one such seat.
It was early 1970 and I saw myself as a pioneer, I was wearing a rather fitted, obviously short dress. I had on shear toe to tummy shinny black pantyhose and my typical loud pink panties over them, with my usual cream white patent leather spiked heels. I smelled feminine, acted feminine, and I looked feminine.
As I settled into my seat I noticed the man was staring at me. Well not at me exactly, he was looking under my dress at my pink panties. I smiled at him. I was flattered and embarrassed at the same time. I soon couldn't help but notice he was also slowly masturbating as he looked at me! We made eye contact and he used his other hand to indicate I should open my legs. I winked at him as I complied. The other men could easily see he was masturbating but they looked at me too and said nothing. I felt pretty good because I could make this guy jack off just by looking at me!
A woman saw him, looked at me, and asked what was wrong with me? She scolded me to close my legs. She said, as a girl, I had no right to lead him on and that what I was doing was classless and bad! She then told the driver what was going on. The driver stopped, got out, and came back to the body of the jitney and told the man he better stop his disgusting game. He then looked at me quizzically and asked, "Are you a real girl?"
I told him the truth.
The woman went off on me! She called me a homosexual and faggot. She said she never saw a boy in a girl's dress before and said it was boys like me who gave girls a bad reputation. She was obviously flabbergasted at one acting the way I was. She stormed off the jitney without paying.
I opened my purse and offered to pay her fare but the driver just shook his head as he climbed back into his driver's seat and pulled away from the curb. The man went back to looking under my dress and mastrubated himself as if nothing happened. I just sat there and licked my lips, I had every intention of encouraging him! I also wanted to watch him flog his meat.
After only a few blocks I couldn't take it any longer, so I asked if he wanted to get off with me. I assured him, I could make sure he would get off on me in more ways than just one! He shook his head yes and said, "I'd like that."
I extended my invitation to the other two men and one guy looked me up and down but said nothing, the other said, "No thank you, you he/she bitch. I don't fuck boys!" I told him, he had no idea what he was missing!
The interested man and I got off at the next stop together. He took me by the hand and we squeezed between two buildings into the middle of a field of grass where he told me to get down on my knees. I did as he told me and waited. I thought I saw another person look out from a window and my heart began to beat a mile a minute and my breath was comming in so fast I thought I would pass out!
I was excited by the idea we might get caught!
He opened his pants and I could see he was totally hard. His hard-on was as white as any I've ever seen growing out of a patch of almost black curly hair, it was stiff as a piece of wood with a purple bulbous head. I practically drooled. He said, "All the boys who look like you give me a hard on!" I smiled. He told me he was going to do his best to make a real women out of me. When he said that, I was not scared of him at all, he was allowing me to willingly play the role of a naughty woman.
He told me to open my mouth and I complied. He proceeded to fuck my face! There was no kissing, no touching, no rubbing, no nothing. Just me chocking on his wood as he pushed it into my mouth and my surprise that he was done with me in less than 10 minutes! I could taste and smell his ejaculate and my face was a mess and my dress had a total man mess all over it. He smiled down at me and said now I looked like a real woman. I smiled up at him. He told me he would leave first and I was to remain where I was for about ten more minutes.
I remember telling him "thank you" and kissing his softening prick as e pulled it away from me and put it back in his pants. I knew I would have to fix my makeup and I heard him laugh and say he left me on my knees, he sounded like a very happy man. I watched him go away.
I stood and fixed my makeup and the person looking out the window behind the blinds never came out to take advantage of me. I walked the rest of the way home feeling very accomplished and knowing full well he never thanked me. A few men tooted their car horns at me as I walked home.
I used to long to be a real female, to have a vagina and breasts, but I don't let not having them, or anything else, stop me from doing everything and anything I want.
Apparently, we cross-sexed people seem to know at a very early age exactly what our feelings are telling us. It's mostly people around us who are confused. I was a bit more lucky than most because I grew up in the San Francisco bay area where I was simply seen as just another queer who happened to like wearing female clothing. No one understood cross sexed persons back then.
I've not been accepted by the people I care about to include my biological family and siblings. Oddly enough, my happiest memories have been the stolen moments I spent with admiring boys. God, what risks I used to take for them!
Let me re-tell a story about one incident regarding my cross dressing in public.
I was in my late teen years and already fairly experienced with men, I thoroughly loved the excitement of having wanton oral sex with a man. I was riding in a jitney bus alone going up Mission street and the seat I was in faced riders on the opposite side. A man occupied one such seat.
It was early 1970 and I saw myself as a pioneer, I was wearing a rather fitted, obviously short dress. I had on shear toe to tummy shinny black pantyhose and my typical loud pink panties over them, with my usual cream white patent leather spiked heels. I smelled feminine, acted feminine, and I looked feminine.
As I settled into my seat I noticed the man was staring at me. Well not at me exactly, he was looking under my dress at my pink panties. I smiled at him. I was flattered and embarrassed at the same time. I soon couldn't help but notice he was also slowly masturbating as he looked at me! We made eye contact and he used his other hand to indicate I should open my legs. I winked at him as I complied. The other men could easily see he was masturbating but they looked at me too and said nothing. I felt pretty good because I could make this guy jack off just by looking at me!
A woman saw him, looked at me, and asked what was wrong with me? She scolded me to close my legs. She said, as a girl, I had no right to lead him on and that what I was doing was classless and bad! She then told the driver what was going on. The driver stopped, got out, and came back to the body of the jitney and told the man he better stop his disgusting game. He then looked at me quizzically and asked, "Are you a real girl?"
I told him the truth.
The woman went off on me! She called me a homosexual and faggot. She said she never saw a boy in a girl's dress before and said it was boys like me who gave girls a bad reputation. She was obviously flabbergasted at one acting the way I was. She stormed off the jitney without paying.
I opened my purse and offered to pay her fare but the driver just shook his head as he climbed back into his driver's seat and pulled away from the curb. The man went back to looking under my dress and mastrubated himself as if nothing happened. I just sat there and licked my lips, I had every intention of encouraging him! I also wanted to watch him flog his meat.
After only a few blocks I couldn't take it any longer, so I asked if he wanted to get off with me. I assured him, I could make sure he would get off on me in more ways than just one! He shook his head yes and said, "I'd like that."
I extended my invitation to the other two men and one guy looked me up and down but said nothing, the other said, "No thank you, you he/she bitch. I don't fuck boys!" I told him, he had no idea what he was missing!
The interested man and I got off at the next stop together. He took me by the hand and we squeezed between two buildings into the middle of a field of grass where he told me to get down on my knees. I did as he told me and waited. I thought I saw another person look out from a window and my heart began to beat a mile a minute and my breath was comming in so fast I thought I would pass out!
I was excited by the idea we might get caught!
He opened his pants and I could see he was totally hard. His hard-on was as white as any I've ever seen growing out of a patch of almost black curly hair, it was stiff as a piece of wood with a purple bulbous head. I practically drooled. He said, "All the boys who look like you give me a hard on!" I smiled. He told me he was going to do his best to make a real women out of me. When he said that, I was not scared of him at all, he was allowing me to willingly play the role of a naughty woman.
He told me to open my mouth and I complied. He proceeded to fuck my face! There was no kissing, no touching, no rubbing, no nothing. Just me chocking on his wood as he pushed it into my mouth and my surprise that he was done with me in less than 10 minutes! I could taste and smell his ejaculate and my face was a mess and my dress had a total man mess all over it. He smiled down at me and said now I looked like a real woman. I smiled up at him. He told me he would leave first and I was to remain where I was for about ten more minutes.
I remember telling him "thank you" and kissing his softening prick as e pulled it away from me and put it back in his pants. I knew I would have to fix my makeup and I heard him laugh and say he left me on my knees, he sounded like a very happy man. I watched him go away.
I stood and fixed my makeup and the person looking out the window behind the blinds never came out to take advantage of me. I walked the rest of the way home feeling very accomplished and knowing full well he never thanked me. A few men tooted their car horns at me as I walked home.
I used to long to be a real female, to have a vagina and breasts, but I don't let not having them, or anything else, stop me from doing everything and anything I want.
Saturday, March 24, 2012
We just like how it looks on us!
Never mind the Paris Hiltons, Kim Kardasians, or the other myriad of sexy women around, I ask, why do I enjoy dressing the same way they do? Sometimes it boils down to, "We just like how it looks on us!"
Take a moment and look at how many real women who are old enough to know better but who still follow the "trends" and try to dress as if they're still their daughter's age. There's even a word to describe them, Cougars. It's not just my opinion that these "cougars" are simply looking for Mr Right-now and are not at all interested in finding Mr Right, it's the attitude of most men and women of society and it's very acceptable.
Agree or don't, these cougars also send the message to their teenage girls that they have to be "hot" in order to be accepted. As a male to female transvestite I also have an affinity for men, ergo, I firmly don't believe I'm so different from those teenage girls, but because of my biological sex I do fit in a whole other category.
In reality, teen girls aren't so much the problem as the 40 and 50-somethings out there. These cougars cut just as deeply as anyone, maybe even deeper! While it's my opinion the cougars simply refuse to act their age, asking the question "why" begets a much larger more comprehensive issue, and it's much the same as mine.
It is a little accepted fact that teenage girls don't frequent the same clubs or bars that I do which leaves cougars, as well as other T-girls, in direct competition for cock with me! Some of these older women are so desperately hoping for sex with a guy they dress and act in ways that make them look inappropriate (cheap) and behave foolishly (again cheap!) I may come across as condescending but I take many of my cues directly from them! Cougars are my best teachers.
No one is suggesting Cougars simply accept the fact most guys are not interested in them in any way other than as an NSA sex partner, I know I'm certainly hoping that's the case with regard to myself!
As for not being able to find "sexy" clothing in the regular stores which are age appropriate, may I suggest the thrift shops? I use thrift shops and I sew. There are many ways to be fashionable and still remain modest ... if modest is how you wish to be seen! When I go out "hunting" for man-sex, modesty is the farthest thing from my mind!
Do some women flaunt their sex? Are you blind? Allow me to share.
When we were kids (back in 1960) we might leave the house looking one particular way and then change into something more "edgy" long before the school bus arrived. I was very impressed by the girls because they left home with a fresh clean face and the usual long skirt. Then they added the makeup, maybe added some toilet tissue to their bras and unbuttoned their blouses down to here, they also rolled up their skirts! Ms. Hottie emerged! It was a slut look that both the girls and the boys liked very much. It was no wonder the girls became very popular with the boys!
As a gay boy, I quickly learned that what you did was not nearly as important as image. Image was everything! In fact, it was my image which saved me a lot of ass kicking!
With Madison Avenue out and about women are simply pretty, crafty, and feel they absolutely MUST keep up with their peers. It is argued that I chose my sex identification but I think I merely grew up like a sponge. I simply didn't take long to learn.
In my humble opinion society is the one confused.
Take a moment and look at how many real women who are old enough to know better but who still follow the "trends" and try to dress as if they're still their daughter's age. There's even a word to describe them, Cougars. It's not just my opinion that these "cougars" are simply looking for Mr Right-now and are not at all interested in finding Mr Right, it's the attitude of most men and women of society and it's very acceptable.
Agree or don't, these cougars also send the message to their teenage girls that they have to be "hot" in order to be accepted. As a male to female transvestite I also have an affinity for men, ergo, I firmly don't believe I'm so different from those teenage girls, but because of my biological sex I do fit in a whole other category.
In reality, teen girls aren't so much the problem as the 40 and 50-somethings out there. These cougars cut just as deeply as anyone, maybe even deeper! While it's my opinion the cougars simply refuse to act their age, asking the question "why" begets a much larger more comprehensive issue, and it's much the same as mine.
It is a little accepted fact that teenage girls don't frequent the same clubs or bars that I do which leaves cougars, as well as other T-girls, in direct competition for cock with me! Some of these older women are so desperately hoping for sex with a guy they dress and act in ways that make them look inappropriate (cheap) and behave foolishly (again cheap!) I may come across as condescending but I take many of my cues directly from them! Cougars are my best teachers.
No one is suggesting Cougars simply accept the fact most guys are not interested in them in any way other than as an NSA sex partner, I know I'm certainly hoping that's the case with regard to myself!
As for not being able to find "sexy" clothing in the regular stores which are age appropriate, may I suggest the thrift shops? I use thrift shops and I sew. There are many ways to be fashionable and still remain modest ... if modest is how you wish to be seen! When I go out "hunting" for man-sex, modesty is the farthest thing from my mind!
Do some women flaunt their sex? Are you blind? Allow me to share.
When we were kids (back in 1960) we might leave the house looking one particular way and then change into something more "edgy" long before the school bus arrived. I was very impressed by the girls because they left home with a fresh clean face and the usual long skirt. Then they added the makeup, maybe added some toilet tissue to their bras and unbuttoned their blouses down to here, they also rolled up their skirts! Ms. Hottie emerged! It was a slut look that both the girls and the boys liked very much. It was no wonder the girls became very popular with the boys!
As a gay boy, I quickly learned that what you did was not nearly as important as image. Image was everything! In fact, it was my image which saved me a lot of ass kicking!
With Madison Avenue out and about women are simply pretty, crafty, and feel they absolutely MUST keep up with their peers. It is argued that I chose my sex identification but I think I merely grew up like a sponge. I simply didn't take long to learn.
In my humble opinion society is the one confused.
Thursday, March 22, 2012
Advocacy
This topic was recently brought up during my good friend's English class.
It would seem that teaching students to emulate highly forward thinking people would be a good thing. The fact these forward thinking people are inclusive and obviously popular would be a huge plus. Advocacy, as a general subject, would be well served, teaching it would be wholesome, it would of course be the right-est thing to do.
However, doing so as a formal teacher one could easily become a victim of the scholastic system. Political Correctness knows no bounds and WHAT you advocate is just as important as WHY.
An example is that society, as is generally viewed, does not think favorably of queers or Cross Dressers regardless if they're male or female. Ru Paul is excepted and the topic for another subject.
Dallas Denny wrote back in 1999, that we DO eat our leaders, one only need look to Wiki-leaks and the Occupy factions to see if this is a true statement or not. Even the President of the United States gets blamed for everything from Katrina to Health Insurance, from unemployment to gas prices, regardless of party affiliation and regardless of actual control.
In the final analysts real and honest advocacy is not that much different from war, both have causes and motivations, both have outcomes, and both are quite violent. Not everyone is equipped to be an advocate just like everyone can not be a soldier.
I, for one, hope to have Cross Dressing advocacy around for some time, for it is nice to have people provide an anchor for us. Unfortunately, society may never change.
It would seem that teaching students to emulate highly forward thinking people would be a good thing. The fact these forward thinking people are inclusive and obviously popular would be a huge plus. Advocacy, as a general subject, would be well served, teaching it would be wholesome, it would of course be the right-est thing to do.
However, doing so as a formal teacher one could easily become a victim of the scholastic system. Political Correctness knows no bounds and WHAT you advocate is just as important as WHY.
An example is that society, as is generally viewed, does not think favorably of queers or Cross Dressers regardless if they're male or female. Ru Paul is excepted and the topic for another subject.
Dallas Denny wrote back in 1999, that we DO eat our leaders, one only need look to Wiki-leaks and the Occupy factions to see if this is a true statement or not. Even the President of the United States gets blamed for everything from Katrina to Health Insurance, from unemployment to gas prices, regardless of party affiliation and regardless of actual control.
In the final analysts real and honest advocacy is not that much different from war, both have causes and motivations, both have outcomes, and both are quite violent. Not everyone is equipped to be an advocate just like everyone can not be a soldier.
I, for one, hope to have Cross Dressing advocacy around for some time, for it is nice to have people provide an anchor for us. Unfortunately, society may never change.
Sunday, March 4, 2012
A very TOPICAL topic!
Somewhat in vouge, too!
I recently read someplace a post which made me think about conversations I had with GG's which included fellatio and anal sex. When I think back on those conversations they were fraught with conflict and almost bordered on hostility.
One particular woman (she was from Canada, a painter artist type, and lived on a sailboat) who I felt I could confess to said, maybe I was enjoying being a woman too much! She told me to be careful. Then in a very graphic manner admonished me NOT to tell her husband! Could it be that women didn’t really accept me, but paid lip-service to my situation, simply because I was neither a real woman or a real man?
Wow! Another question to ponder!
Many conversations took place but I’ve never understood how almost all GG’s say it's OK for a man to be gay, yet, they resist their own man when he wants a little quick oral or some meaningless anal sex. Allowing him to cross dress and act out as a homosexual is absolutely forbidden.
I did not ask them, what their preference was!
Almost to a woman they told me they only did it because he wanted it. They said they only saw oral and anal sex as a means to get something really nice from him later in exchange, one woman mentioned a diamond necklace! They all made it a very strong point to remind me they were real women and didn’t do that just for kicks! A few even said it was kind of ghetto and a bit disgusting.
It must have been him that wanted anal and oral sex as part of their bedroom routine. Which is to say, he did, but she didn’t! That difference could lead to conflict and divorce. It certainly explained to me why I, as a T-girl, met so many married men. They apparently enjoyed anal and oral sex but they didn’t get it at home!
I was not so surprised to learn most women do it as an obligation only. Many GG's do as their man tells them, but don't we all? GG's have told me they view anal and oral sex as merely another form of birth control. While they admit to using their mouths, which some have claimed is done as much as three times per day, most say they don't like giving head as a substitute for regular sex.
Speaking for myself, giving my LTR guy a blow job three times a day was great! Giving three different STD free guys blow jobs in the course of a single day was my idea of heaven!
GG’s also related to me that gay females can simply use a dildo to sexually satisfy their partner using her vagina. Some have also told me, laughingly, that 'if' they were gay, they’d use the double ended dildos! I guess GG’s are not so different from the rest of us humans!
During these conversations, they've also told me they feel sorry for a gay man like me because we’re severely limited. We male gays are relegated and must use only what we have depending what the guy is into. Although I'd never say it, personally, I see him as just being into me for the moment! lol!
I think doing what the guy wants is a normal part of being a femme. As a T-girl, I think of oral or anal sex as anything but humiliating. During my life I’ve given head and took it up my back-side a few times while in front of large, bare, apartment windows, knowing we were being watched via telescopes, simply because he said he wanted me that way.
Many trysts were performed in full view of the neighbors and they rarely said anything to either of us but they always watched! Yes, as I left the place I often got more than a few looks. That didn’t matter to me because I was secure in knowing I also got the customary semen, which I see as another kind of satisfaction, and nothing threatening ever happened to me!
If oral and anal sex is a humiliating sex act, then I've willingly accepted being humiliated by lots of men! But I also wear a dress and have low morals, so, maybe I'm just really confused.
Actually, I don’t think I’m confused at all!
I recently read someplace a post which made me think about conversations I had with GG's which included fellatio and anal sex. When I think back on those conversations they were fraught with conflict and almost bordered on hostility.
One particular woman (she was from Canada, a painter artist type, and lived on a sailboat) who I felt I could confess to said, maybe I was enjoying being a woman too much! She told me to be careful. Then in a very graphic manner admonished me NOT to tell her husband! Could it be that women didn’t really accept me, but paid lip-service to my situation, simply because I was neither a real woman or a real man?
Wow! Another question to ponder!
Many conversations took place but I’ve never understood how almost all GG’s say it's OK for a man to be gay, yet, they resist their own man when he wants a little quick oral or some meaningless anal sex. Allowing him to cross dress and act out as a homosexual is absolutely forbidden.
I did not ask them, what their preference was!
Almost to a woman they told me they only did it because he wanted it. They said they only saw oral and anal sex as a means to get something really nice from him later in exchange, one woman mentioned a diamond necklace! They all made it a very strong point to remind me they were real women and didn’t do that just for kicks! A few even said it was kind of ghetto and a bit disgusting.
It must have been him that wanted anal and oral sex as part of their bedroom routine. Which is to say, he did, but she didn’t! That difference could lead to conflict and divorce. It certainly explained to me why I, as a T-girl, met so many married men. They apparently enjoyed anal and oral sex but they didn’t get it at home!
I was not so surprised to learn most women do it as an obligation only. Many GG's do as their man tells them, but don't we all? GG's have told me they view anal and oral sex as merely another form of birth control. While they admit to using their mouths, which some have claimed is done as much as three times per day, most say they don't like giving head as a substitute for regular sex.
Speaking for myself, giving my LTR guy a blow job three times a day was great! Giving three different STD free guys blow jobs in the course of a single day was my idea of heaven!
GG’s also related to me that gay females can simply use a dildo to sexually satisfy their partner using her vagina. Some have also told me, laughingly, that 'if' they were gay, they’d use the double ended dildos! I guess GG’s are not so different from the rest of us humans!
During these conversations, they've also told me they feel sorry for a gay man like me because we’re severely limited. We male gays are relegated and must use only what we have depending what the guy is into. Although I'd never say it, personally, I see him as just being into me for the moment! lol!
I think doing what the guy wants is a normal part of being a femme. As a T-girl, I think of oral or anal sex as anything but humiliating. During my life I’ve given head and took it up my back-side a few times while in front of large, bare, apartment windows, knowing we were being watched via telescopes, simply because he said he wanted me that way.
Many trysts were performed in full view of the neighbors and they rarely said anything to either of us but they always watched! Yes, as I left the place I often got more than a few looks. That didn’t matter to me because I was secure in knowing I also got the customary semen, which I see as another kind of satisfaction, and nothing threatening ever happened to me!
If oral and anal sex is a humiliating sex act, then I've willingly accepted being humiliated by lots of men! But I also wear a dress and have low morals, so, maybe I'm just really confused.
Actually, I don’t think I’m confused at all!
Sunday, February 26, 2012
I am half my father and half my mother
Growing up I was told by what I can only deem as somewhat surprised family members, that I looked much more like my mother than I did my father. As I grew up I discovered I took on way more than just my mother's looks. Thank you, mom, for giving me my hair, hips, and legs!
By most societal impressions, I'm gay. However I see myself as a "femme" as opposed to a "flame", and I mean no slam or put-down toward flames! As the expression goes, "Some of my best friends are flames!"
In keeping with my mother's gene input, my penis has been very tiny. As a result of my being gay, older boys enjoyed making me stand before them naked and watching, and laughing, as I urinated over my testicles and it ran down my closed legs. I wasn't hurt and I didn't judge them, but I saw them as just being boys. Today I dress as a woman.
I read somewhere that a person could have a casual thought, or dream, about being an anatomical male or female who has the mind set of the opposite sex. That person could expresses that opposite fully, but only within the casual thought or dream.
Professional rhetoric states that a person could also "probably" live as a member of the opposite sex, either part-time or full-time, and seek to change his or her original sex through hormonal (HRT) or sex reassignment surgery (SRS). While these things are absolutely legal, clinically they indicate a problem within that person.
Really?
It is my opinion that a person, sexually conflicted or otherwise, is NOT a clinical problem. A cross sexed person does not need to be fixed, they need to be accepted!
The actual demand for HRT and SRS has been historically dependent upon the patient’s own knowledge of the availability of these expensive procedures, Google has only been a recent invention. Most "conflicted" souls quietly saved up to go over seas. The uncanny personal sense, and conviction, of having a cross-sexed mind in need of a matching body usually comes long before such knowledge of HRT and SRS is discovered.
Ergo, the conflict.
Typically, a transsexual learns about themselves during childhood and their feelings of belonging to the other sex is very real. This leads to confusion in the beginning but thankfully levels out within the person in later years. Today, he or she is sometimes referred to as gay, I was labeled a queer boy.
The idea for SRS becomes the ideal fix but the age for it varied. It was parents who felt that age to be pre-pubertal or adolescence. It may have been delayed until the person was in their young adulthood or early middle age. The individualist obsession to act out on their sexual feelings without the benefit of HRT or SRS was postponed no longer.
Since their closets were filled with Lycra, Spandex, silks and nylons, it followed that falsies, heels, wigs, make up and mirrors made a surge in their lives. Men would be next.
Public health statistics, in the United States anyway, do not include figures on sexual related problems, including the incidence of "natural" birth defects of the sex organs.
Were these babies male or female? Who had the inclination to care?
Voluntary registration of so-called "sex related problems" would fail today because of the social chastisement or potential penalties of self-disclosure. Therefore, there are no honest estimates of the incidence of transsexualism.
It is said that post-operative transsexuals in the United States now number in the thousands but certainly not in the tens of thousands. To be more succinct, in a total United States population of over 220 million people the condition is not as common as most physicians might like to think.
Interesting.
It is also said that it's not so common, perhaps only 1 to 2 percent of the total population, that every physician should NOT expect to treat several cases in the course of his or her medical career. Some doctors will actually see no cases and some will miss cases because the patient is too apprehensive (scared) to state his or her situation.
This sexual cross-over has gone on since before the Bible was written and it will continue to the end of time. Calling the affected person a homo will not change things.
Why can't we all just get along?
By most societal impressions, I'm gay. However I see myself as a "femme" as opposed to a "flame", and I mean no slam or put-down toward flames! As the expression goes, "Some of my best friends are flames!"
In keeping with my mother's gene input, my penis has been very tiny. As a result of my being gay, older boys enjoyed making me stand before them naked and watching, and laughing, as I urinated over my testicles and it ran down my closed legs. I wasn't hurt and I didn't judge them, but I saw them as just being boys. Today I dress as a woman.
I read somewhere that a person could have a casual thought, or dream, about being an anatomical male or female who has the mind set of the opposite sex. That person could expresses that opposite fully, but only within the casual thought or dream.
Professional rhetoric states that a person could also "probably" live as a member of the opposite sex, either part-time or full-time, and seek to change his or her original sex through hormonal (HRT) or sex reassignment surgery (SRS). While these things are absolutely legal, clinically they indicate a problem within that person.
Really?
It is my opinion that a person, sexually conflicted or otherwise, is NOT a clinical problem. A cross sexed person does not need to be fixed, they need to be accepted!
The actual demand for HRT and SRS has been historically dependent upon the patient’s own knowledge of the availability of these expensive procedures, Google has only been a recent invention. Most "conflicted" souls quietly saved up to go over seas. The uncanny personal sense, and conviction, of having a cross-sexed mind in need of a matching body usually comes long before such knowledge of HRT and SRS is discovered.
Ergo, the conflict.
Typically, a transsexual learns about themselves during childhood and their feelings of belonging to the other sex is very real. This leads to confusion in the beginning but thankfully levels out within the person in later years. Today, he or she is sometimes referred to as gay, I was labeled a queer boy.
The idea for SRS becomes the ideal fix but the age for it varied. It was parents who felt that age to be pre-pubertal or adolescence. It may have been delayed until the person was in their young adulthood or early middle age. The individualist obsession to act out on their sexual feelings without the benefit of HRT or SRS was postponed no longer.
Since their closets were filled with Lycra, Spandex, silks and nylons, it followed that falsies, heels, wigs, make up and mirrors made a surge in their lives. Men would be next.
Public health statistics, in the United States anyway, do not include figures on sexual related problems, including the incidence of "natural" birth defects of the sex organs.
Were these babies male or female? Who had the inclination to care?
Voluntary registration of so-called "sex related problems" would fail today because of the social chastisement or potential penalties of self-disclosure. Therefore, there are no honest estimates of the incidence of transsexualism.
It is said that post-operative transsexuals in the United States now number in the thousands but certainly not in the tens of thousands. To be more succinct, in a total United States population of over 220 million people the condition is not as common as most physicians might like to think.
Interesting.
It is also said that it's not so common, perhaps only 1 to 2 percent of the total population, that every physician should NOT expect to treat several cases in the course of his or her medical career. Some doctors will actually see no cases and some will miss cases because the patient is too apprehensive (scared) to state his or her situation.
This sexual cross-over has gone on since before the Bible was written and it will continue to the end of time. Calling the affected person a homo will not change things.
Why can't we all just get along?
Saturday, February 25, 2012
Recently read about this on-line, thought I'd add my spin to it.
The word "express" or the term "expression", with regard to sex, does not appear in any law to date. Not one, none. I found that amazing. Laws prohibiting discrimination, bullying, out-right physical attacks, are all over the place, but not one law says anything based on gender identity or gender expression!
In truth, anti-discrimination laws established in most US cities and states do not protect people from anything because laws do not protect, period! That would be like saying, more pencils will make smarter people. I don't think so.
These "anti-discrimination" laws merely add an additional layer to an established law which carries its own fine or sentence and most people who would violate that law already know it but don't care. Being a guy dressed in a pretty yellow outfit won't stop you from being dragged into an alleyway!
Laws, regardless of how they're worded, will not change a person's heart, nor will they amend an attitude, nor will they positively impact upon negative mind sets. Barry McGuire said it best; "legislation alone, won't bring integration" I say, we can not expect everyone to be our advocate.
Consequently, even non-expressive gay people, like myself, face one form or another of discrimination in nearly every aspect of their daily lives. I know I face discrimination every time my landlord's look changes to a leer because he knows about me. Every time I go shopping everyone seems to know! And it makes no difference if I'm dressed as a male or a female.
A new policy was implemented by USAID recently and represents an impressive step forward. But because the policy is not mandatory and does not have the full force of the law behind it, employees in organizations contracting with USAID have absolutely no remedy if the policy is violated.
Really? Kudos to USAID of course, I guess, but a policy which is NOT mandatory? Then what good is it to have it? To just be able to say you got a policy?
In order to protect the rights of transgendered people, the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) continues to urge President Obama to issue an executive order prohibiting all federal contractors from discriminating on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity.
Perhaps the repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" is a first step in that direction, but we are talking about gays and lesbians, not transgendered or cross dressers. Might I dare add, if you don't pass don't hold your breath for any federal gender expression laws getting on the books any time soon.
Interestingly, the NCTE and NGLTF also released a finding from a report back in 2001, it was entitled; Injustice at Every Turn. Very nice title. While this report confirmed the pervasive and severe discrimination faced by transgendered people, it did not investigate the situation for those who "express" as the opposite sex. I think of this as a kind of discrimination within our own ranks.
Out of a small sample of nearly 6,500 trans persons, the report found they experienced high levels of discrimination in fields of employment, housing, health care, education, legal, and even in their own families! And you thought is was just you! The full report can be found online, just Google it.
Apparently, after 10 years at least, absolutely nothing has changed! LMFAO!
Transgender people may also have additional identities that affect the types of discrimination they experience. Simply said, experiencing discrimination of any kind adds significantly to psychological stress and often includes people from sundry racial, ethnic, or religious and minority backgrounds. Often times individuals are left to wonder whether they were discriminated against solely because of their gender identity or gender expression, or was it their socio-cultural identity, their race, or some combination of all of these!
How can one possibly know? Do you ask? Do you dare?
Worth noting, and also according to the study from 2001, while discrimination is quite pervasive for many transgender people, the main intersection of anti-transgender bias and persistence, is also where structural racism is especially severe. African American transgendered individuals fare far worse than all other transgender populations examined.
All. I find that very note worthy. I also find it appalling!
The report goes on to say, many transgender people, regardless of race, are the targets of hate crimes, but there are simply no laws addressing that issue. Hate AND Gender Expression. These transgender persons are simply considered victims of a unique and subtle form of discrimination. I mean, honestly! This kind of discrimination can include everything from a disapproving glare, an extremely mean verbal attack, a statement about specific body parts or the typical physical attack. This kind of discrimination usually produces some level of discomfort.
Say it ain't so!
People who engage in this type of activity are usually nothing less than invasive, usually vulgar, and total brutes.
So, where does it all end? My guess is when society decides it ends. I'm not holding my breath.
In truth, anti-discrimination laws established in most US cities and states do not protect people from anything because laws do not protect, period! That would be like saying, more pencils will make smarter people. I don't think so.
These "anti-discrimination" laws merely add an additional layer to an established law which carries its own fine or sentence and most people who would violate that law already know it but don't care. Being a guy dressed in a pretty yellow outfit won't stop you from being dragged into an alleyway!
Laws, regardless of how they're worded, will not change a person's heart, nor will they amend an attitude, nor will they positively impact upon negative mind sets. Barry McGuire said it best; "legislation alone, won't bring integration" I say, we can not expect everyone to be our advocate.
Consequently, even non-expressive gay people, like myself, face one form or another of discrimination in nearly every aspect of their daily lives. I know I face discrimination every time my landlord's look changes to a leer because he knows about me. Every time I go shopping everyone seems to know! And it makes no difference if I'm dressed as a male or a female.
A new policy was implemented by USAID recently and represents an impressive step forward. But because the policy is not mandatory and does not have the full force of the law behind it, employees in organizations contracting with USAID have absolutely no remedy if the policy is violated.
Really? Kudos to USAID of course, I guess, but a policy which is NOT mandatory? Then what good is it to have it? To just be able to say you got a policy?
In order to protect the rights of transgendered people, the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) continues to urge President Obama to issue an executive order prohibiting all federal contractors from discriminating on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity.
Perhaps the repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" is a first step in that direction, but we are talking about gays and lesbians, not transgendered or cross dressers. Might I dare add, if you don't pass don't hold your breath for any federal gender expression laws getting on the books any time soon.
Interestingly, the NCTE and NGLTF also released a finding from a report back in 2001, it was entitled; Injustice at Every Turn. Very nice title. While this report confirmed the pervasive and severe discrimination faced by transgendered people, it did not investigate the situation for those who "express" as the opposite sex. I think of this as a kind of discrimination within our own ranks.
Out of a small sample of nearly 6,500 trans persons, the report found they experienced high levels of discrimination in fields of employment, housing, health care, education, legal, and even in their own families! And you thought is was just you! The full report can be found online, just Google it.
Apparently, after 10 years at least, absolutely nothing has changed! LMFAO!
Transgender people may also have additional identities that affect the types of discrimination they experience. Simply said, experiencing discrimination of any kind adds significantly to psychological stress and often includes people from sundry racial, ethnic, or religious and minority backgrounds. Often times individuals are left to wonder whether they were discriminated against solely because of their gender identity or gender expression, or was it their socio-cultural identity, their race, or some combination of all of these!
How can one possibly know? Do you ask? Do you dare?
Worth noting, and also according to the study from 2001, while discrimination is quite pervasive for many transgender people, the main intersection of anti-transgender bias and persistence, is also where structural racism is especially severe. African American transgendered individuals fare far worse than all other transgender populations examined.
All. I find that very note worthy. I also find it appalling!
The report goes on to say, many transgender people, regardless of race, are the targets of hate crimes, but there are simply no laws addressing that issue. Hate AND Gender Expression. These transgender persons are simply considered victims of a unique and subtle form of discrimination. I mean, honestly! This kind of discrimination can include everything from a disapproving glare, an extremely mean verbal attack, a statement about specific body parts or the typical physical attack. This kind of discrimination usually produces some level of discomfort.
Say it ain't so!
People who engage in this type of activity are usually nothing less than invasive, usually vulgar, and total brutes.
So, where does it all end? My guess is when society decides it ends. I'm not holding my breath.
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